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We hear a lot about holding space, and about the power of a safe and sacred space when it comes to personal transformation.


In fact, the psychologist Carl Rogers believed that, when it comes to transformation and to reconnecting with our truest selves, the most important ingredient was the space that was held for us to do that.


Yet how many of us have ever truly felt such a powerful and beautiful space for ourselves?


After all, for all we hear about space holding, very few of us truly know what it means to hold a safe and sacred space, nor indeed to be held in such a space.


The less than safe spaces

Many of us have experienced those less than safe spaces though, and know those only too well.


My first experience of one came through a therapist I worked with early in my journey. During the early part of our work together we spoke comfortably about the burnout I was experiencing at work, but when the conversation turned to the trauma that underpinned that burnout? The therapist told me that was too much for her to handle and she wouldn’t be able to help.


Then there was the tarot reader friend I worked closely with who, in the midst of her own divorce, told me she had told multiple clients that week that it was time to leave their marriages. When I asked where that had come from she replied, “The break up energy in the room was just so strong,” with no thought or understanding of how that may be influenced by her own experiences.


And finally there was the community group I was a member of, whose regular meetings would see myself and other members of the group coming away drained and disappointed after the community manager started each week by telling us that “she was so grateful for this space to share my challenges”, but was often unable to hold space for ours.


In their own way, each of these experiences was frustrating, disappointing and, worst of all, worrying. Worrying for the wellbeing of those clients whose needs were left unmet by the spaces in which they found themselves, but worrying too for the space holders who were leaving their own needs unmet, their own energies unchecked and their own boundaries unheard.


The problem with that is not only in the damage it does to the spaces we are holding, but also to our own energy and safety.


What does it mean to hold those spaces?
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So how does it feel to hold those truly safe and sacred spaces?

While it can feel scary at times, truly holding those spaces feels safe, nourishing and rewarding.


We hold the best space when we are grounded enough into ourselves to know what we are offering and exactly what we are here to do, while also being entirely grounding into and focussed on the people that we are working with.


When we hold a safe and sacred space, we are working with whatever our clients and companions bring to the table. But we are also working outside of those individual issues and challenges, working instead with the person in front of us and the space they need to move in and through.


Not only that but honestly, when we hold the kind of powerfully transformational space that our clients can most benefit from, we so often find the inspiration to powerfully transform within ourselves too.


Inspired by our clients, held by the space we create, and rooted into our own selves, we often cannot help but be transformed…


To hold a truly safe and sacred space is one of the greatest honours of all the work I do as a medium, a therapist and a primal guide and it’s for that reason as much as any other that I am determined to share these insights with other teachers, healers, guides and more.


But of course, integrating the skills and foundations of this work isn’t just beneficial to the space holders themselves. The people who benefit most of all from a truly safe and sacred space are those who are able to utilise that space for their own transformation.


The power of being held in such a space

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Because of course, the most obvious and arguably important power in space holding comes for those who are being held.


I truly believe that the holding of a safe and sacred space held for us is one of the most powerful gifts we can receive in a world that is so often busy and distracted. And for all of the experience and expertise that a healer, teacher or guide can bring into that space, we cannot forget that the space itself is often the biggest part of that gift.


Knowing that we are truly heard allows us to express the deepest facets of ourselves and our emotions, and to courageously venture into each of those facets in turn knowing that someone has our back with whatever we find there.


Knowing that we are securely held allows us to tentatively explore and test the waters of new ideas, possibilities and personas before we make any big and risky decisions for ourselves.


Knowing that we are accepted gives us the room to change and become all that we can possibly be; expanding into the fullness of ourselves without worrying about being “too much”, offending someone or being cast aside as a result.

And knowing that we are supported wherever that journey takes us? It keeps us inspired and invigorated through the challenging times, and gives us the permission to celebrate our successes from a place of our own truest and most beautiful expansion.


The holding of a sacred space allows us to transform; not only into the new and the unexpected but also into the fullness of all that we are and were always meant to be – individually and collectively.


Why collectively? Because as our world moves ever closer into a new age of truly heart and soul-centered living, it is the holding of safe and sacred space that will support and enable that change. And isn’t that something to be part of?


How do I become a truly transformational space holder?

This February sees the launch of my course, Hold and Be Held.


Over seven weeks we will work together to not only deepen our understanding and awareness of the vital ingredients of space holding, but to also integrate those into our own lives and practice.


Throughout the journey we’ll hold space for one another as we come to understand what truly powerful space holding looks and feels like for us as healers, teachers, guides and more; before embracing our own unique power as space holders in all that we do.


Hold and Be Held begins on 17th February, but book your place by 4th February to save 20% on the price of the course, with payment plans available for anyone feeling the January pinch.


Want to know more? Simply click here to learn about the course and book your place.



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The six steps to holding powerful transformative space

We’ve all been in those uncomfortable situations:


A healing sessions with someone who has no filter when it comes to sharing their insights


Working with a teacher who shares deep and powerful wisdom… and then disappears when the integration process begins.


A group session which becomes all about the leader, leaving everyone else feeling unheard and unsupported.


And maybe, like me, after each one of those experiences you’ve thought “I’d never put my clients in that situation!” But then it happens…


You run a group session and come away feeling drained and frustrated;


A client brings something to the table that throws you off balance as you have no idea how to handle it;


Our communities begin to dwindle as people tell us it’s just not the experience they expected;


You find your own wounds and traumas triggered by the experiences of your clients;


It happens to us all. Because no matter how much training, experience and expertise we have in our own work, we are rarely taught how to hold a truly safe and sacred space.


Yet whether you’re managing a community, workshop, or other group session; or whether you work 1:1 as a teacher, energy healer, reader or guide, the ability to do that is absolutely vital.


But the truth is that space holding doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact I’m a firm believer that this is a skill anyone can hone by paying attention with just six vital ingredients.


I know this because space holding is something I’ve been passionately dedicated to learning more about and integrating within my own life and work for over a decade now; first with some pretty intensive training as a therapist, then by studying a range of energetic and ritual practices, and learning from some of the most potent space-holders in my industry and beyond.


Perhaps it’s that journey that has led me to be told, repeatedly, that space holding is one of my super powers! And maybe it’s the lessons learned and wisdom integrated during that time which has led me to feel both confident and comfortable in holding space for anything and anyone.


But throughout the whole of that journey, I’ve come back time and time again to those six vital ingredients. Six ingredients that, if put into practice within our community spaces, our conversations with clients, and our personal life, can support our clients, our businesses and ourselves to grow and transform in the most potent and beautiful of ways.


What are those six ingredients? Allow me to explain:

  • Firm Foundations: Space holding may be a term we hear often and one we expect everyone to understand and see in the same way. But what does it really mean? And why is it such a powerful and important skill to have and to share. To hold space is to support someone through it all, from a place of empathy, understanding and truth. Space holding is not guidance, enforced progress or any other type of action-driven work although, when done well, it does provide the platform for those things to unfold, and for the beautiful blossoming of the client to take place.

  • Creating Space: Often we head off to hold space for a individual or group of people without a truly clear understanding of what that will mean – for us or them. To create a truly safe and sacred space requires work from the outset to ensure everyone is aligned on what they can expect, what is expected from them, and what to do if any problems arise along the way.

  • Protecting your own space: We’ve all heard of supermodels who insure their legs, guitarists who ensure their hands, but as a space holder your energy is the most important tool you have. From the outset it is vital that you not only know how to keep yourself safe and nourished at every step, but also put plans in place to do exactly that, and to check in with yourself along the way and ensure it’s happening.

  • Honouring your space: No matter what the books may say, space holding is not a one-size-fits-all skill. And just as every client requires different things from the spaces they are held in, every practitioner will bring different things to the spaces they create and hold. Whether based on your own professional skills and expertise, your astrological make up, or the platforms you choose to work with, honouring how you create space is an important part of this. Get clear and comfortable with that and allow your space to thrive.

  • Clearing your space: This one is a biggie. To be a truly super-powered space holder is to become intimately aware of and connected to yourself – every part of yourself – so that nothing and no one can throw you along the way. That means deep work to recognise and own what may trigger you, bring up judgement or throw you off centre so that you know exactly what you can and cannot hold space for. This isn’t to get critical of yourself, nor to say you must be fully healed or perfect in order to hold space. But this is the work that allows us to create safe spaces in which we can fully support whoever and whatever is placed in front of us, while also ensuring that we are supported and kept safe along the way.

  • Protecting your space: There are no two ways about it – sometimes things go wrong! And from the perfectly natural disagreements and dramatic flare ups that can be witnessed within a group, to individual complaints, and events that affect your own ability to hold space, those can all throw us for a loop unless we’ve spent time preparing for them. Protecting your space means making expecting the unexpected, and putting plans in place to protect yourself and your clients if the worst does happen. Not in the kind of over-burdening way that makes space set up seem like an administrative nightmare, but in a simple and easeful way that allows you to go with the flow no matter what that brings!

Depending on your perspective, right now you’re likely to be thinking one of two things:


“Well that all sounds easy. Clearly I am an expert space holder and have nothing to learn here!”

In which case good for you, you rock!! But remember that space holding is a skill we constantly hone, growing and developing over time as we, our clients and the world change and shift from month to month and year to year.


Or


“OK. I think I understand. But that’s a lot of information… where the hell do I start?” And that’s where I can help you.

Starting in February 2022, I’ll be running Hold and Be Held, a seven-week course and supportive journey aiming to help you integrate all of the skills you need to become a powerful transformative holder of safe and sacred spaces.


Through a combination of weekly workshops, self-study materials and online support sessions, we will journey together through these six ingredients in our own safe and sacred container as we work to integrate the wisdom of this work with our own personality and expertise in order to create the perfect spaces for us, our clients and our businesses.


Want to know more? Just click on the link below. The course starts on 17th February and I would be honoured to hold space for you through this journey.






After sharing with you the story of what I call Primal Healing, it seems only right to tell you a little bit about what that actually is.


Although in many ways, Primal Healing is exactly what it initially said on the tin.


In short, it’s very much about re-awakening and re-membering all those parts of your original primal energy body, and about re-connecting you to your own primal wisdom, power and insight.


I know, I know, you’re probably wondering what that even means! Let me explain more deeply.


If I cast my soul's memory back to the time that we first incarnated here on on Gaia, this planet we call Earth, we came here with much deeper wisdom – the kind of energy that leads us not only to believe in our Soul connections or its starseed origins, but to know about them. Know because we recognise ourselves as living, breathing souls and starseeds incarnated for a time within this physical realm.


That’s not all though; that first time around – perhaps even our first few trips here to Earth – we all came here with much cleaner, clearer energy bodies. And not just the energy bodies you traditionally see in a Reiki manual, on Pinterest or in any of those places but energy bodies that were subtly different. Those primal energy bodies didn’t have the same burdensome task of filtering out the pollution and heaviness that ours so often have to contend with today but more than that, by their very nature, they were also able to connect us quickly and easily to different insights, wisdom and parts of ourselves that we so often struggle to re-connect with today.


Over time, thanks to things this world has thrown at us and the burdens we’ve collected and carried through different incarnations, those energy bodies of ours have changed. In some ways and for some people those changes have been slight; but in others the changes have been absolutely massive. Not to mention destructive to our connections, abilities and overall wellbeing.


Through Primal Healing we work to re-awaken those primal parts of yourselves; to re-tune you to the energy body that was always meant to be yours and to rebuild connections to those parts of you that may well have been hidden or left behind over the years.


And from there? Well that’s when that deeper wisdom kicks in. Often through Primal Healing we meet what we call primal guides, figures whose role is specifically to link you to those very deepest and most powerful parts of yourself, and to your own experiences of them in the past. And with those guides by our side and your primal energy body re-awakened, we can start to move forwards into the big changes.


When I first started offering Primal Healing – not that long ago – I offered it as a one off session which was great; it did what it needed to do it, opened up those additional chakras and really reconnected people in all of the ways I've talked about. But it didn’t quite feel enough; not deep enough and not at all what Primal Healing was intended to be.


What I’ve realised since is, that there’s more to this; that, first and most importantly, people often need support as they’re working through that process of re-awakening and re-connection.


Equally though, I’ve also realised that there’s more for us to re-connect to. More to be re-awakened if we only invest the time and energy to do that.


Recently I asked how we connect to the very, very greatest wisdom, deepest power and most insightful parts of ourselves there have ever been here on Earth. The response was simple, and yet absolutely huge. I was told that we return to the primordial womb – the place that lives under the Tree of Life at the very centre of the Earth. If we can root our energies all the way down into there, removing all blockages until we’re able to find the place that marks our own Soul’s first footprints on this Earth, then we can choose to step into those footprints.


Of course I tried it – first with myself and then with clients too – and what I found was that the roots which grow from those footprints aren’t just something that will root us into Gaia, nor even something that will root us into ourselves. Instead, they are the roots that will connect us always to our most powerful, connected and wisest primal Gaian selves. And from there we start to truly recognise just how much change we can bring about within our lives.


This work of Primal Healing is something that I was nervous to do initially, not least because I often shudder at the terms “healer” and “healing”. As humans, we have big work to do to heal ourselves; work that no one else can do for us other than guiding, supporting and pointing us in the right directions. But through offering Primal Healing more and more, I’ve realised that’s exactly what this is.


In many ways it’s Primal Coaching, Primal Therapy, Primal Guidance and Primal Space Holding. It is opening the doors for you to step into your own role as healer and powerful self-sovreign; and it’s leading the way into the right space for you to do that.


Through Primal Healing I share with you not only the insights and wisdom that have come to me over recent years about this particular modality, but also the wisdom I’ve gathered in over a decade of energy healing; more than 15 years of mediumship, and even longer of consciously working with my own Soul and its journey.


Through Primal Healing I support you by holding a safe and sacred space and sharing the wisdom and knowledge I’ve gained over the years just as much as I do with the symbols, meditations and healing techniques.


Primal Healing is something I love to do, something I truly believe in and something I would LOVE to share with you.


To learn more or book your Primal Healing experience, click here.



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